The Partner I Cherish!

Hi,

Just sitting in the bus today, my thoughts went into a whirlwind of images of what life would mean with a partner. A partner who would be my love and my best friend, a reason and goal of my life's efforts, an independent woman and the mother of my children.

Thinking about this partner, I was amused at the never-ending list of things I would want to have in my partner, or possibly the new things that might set me into a life-long discovery process of the person. Either ways, I thought it would be challenging and interesting to put down some of these musings.

one of main things that I look forward to from my partner is energy. I like to be a person of energy myself, and I think rather than have a contrasting partner, I would like to be with someone, who outpaces or atleast equals me at the attempt to do many endeavours. Often times, it just seems enough if a person can think and communicate new ideas, and I do belive that engaging into stimulating conversations is the hallmark of an exciting and fulfilling relationship. However, personally I also need my partner to try doing more in each sphere of life, as much as in conversations. Some captivating conversationalists can be just that, beyond a point, they just cant motivate you because of a possible lack of on-the-ground work.

I think there are only very few qualities that remain innate with each of us as we grow older, and we change most of our opinions and attitudes to things as we learn more and occasionally become wiser :) the point I am trying to make is that the mutual discovery process between partners is such a basic tenet of the relationship, that I am always scared that I dont end up making an effort for it because I want it to be that way. This aspect is a part of the chemistry between partners, it needs the foundation of unending love, and a willingness to put comfort situations at risk. I am not sure if I still am fully mature to accept thsi risk, but I will leave it to the serendipity of my relationship.

Something of obvious curiosity would be how would I ever find this person. Frankly, I dont even know if I can find her. Maybe its just supposed to happen or maybe I will find some of the things in one person and will be so overdrawn by them that the other things will fade away. As of today, I just know that everytime I think of my future home, there is this one person I imagine. She would have established her own identity at home by her own expression of choices, and she would hopefully be the more tasteful among us :) But again the point I am trying to make is that, my life would certainly be defined more than just by my own choices and identity. And I will hope to make some equal contribution to my partner's!

Have written long enough to convey the message I think. Though I am not sure if additional writing will be of marginal or dramatic significance, I will just stick to norms for now. People tend to convey the bulf of their thoughts in the first few arguments or lines, the rest just makes up for marginal content. Or so I tend to believe! I just think I write too long ;-)

hope you dream about your partner and better still, are already in the process of discovery with him/her.

cheers,
satish